I have been having a hard time finding a romantic partner for quite some time now and it’s been frustrating. Is there good news on that front?

-Gemini

Hello Gemini,

You have a Gemini sun, Sagittarius moon and Virgo ascendant. You have been going through a very challenging time since August 2021 and that period will be ending in March 2023.

For questions about romance, we look at the fifth house in your natal chart. You have Saturn, a very serious and somewhat restrictive energy ruling your fifth house, so you have a pretty serious approach to this area of life. In addition to your natural seriousness about fifth house matters Pluto has been transiting your fifth house for several years. Pluto transits last the longest of all and this transit will continue for another decade or so.

The fifth house is an area of life that is usually fun and optimistic. Pluto is the ruler of Scorpio and the most intense planetary energy of them all, representing metaphorical death and rebirth. When it comes to romance, Pluto makes something that should be light and fun into something heavy, powerfully passionate and involved. During this Pluto transit there is a tendency to attract people who are obsessive and are inclined toward power struggles with you. Because this transit lasts such a long time and your sense of proportion in regards to romance will be distorted, you should be wary of potential relationships that become too intense too quickly.

You currently have Neptune transiting your seventh house of partnerships. This is another very long-lasting transit and will be an influence for several more years. Neptune is a dissolving energy that confuses things. When it is transiting the house of one-on-one relationships it can bring about resentments based on unrealistic expectations. It can also indicate a lack of information or a distortion of the truth between you and your important personal relationships.

A shorter-lived transit that you are having is Jupiter going through your seventh house. Transiting Jupiter in the seventh does tend to bring about opportunities to form close partnerships with people who can broaden your world in some way. Forming a close relationship with someone from a culture outside your own is more likely during this transit. This influence is only going on for a few more weeks, before Jupiter moves into your eighth house of shared resources.

Your natal Venus, the planet of love, is in your eleventh house of friendships and group associations. You are most likely to find a romantic relationship from amongst your friends. This is a natal placement, so it is always true for you. Currently you have transiting Jupiter in a trine with your Venus, making your feel friendlier and more flirtatious than usual. Sometimes this transit brings a new love interest and sometimes it doesn’t but it’s great for your social situation and boosts your mood. It only lasts a couple of weeks, and is such an easy energy that you could let it pass by without taking advantage of the gifts that it makes available to you. So, it’s up to you to put yourself out there and have fun with friends.

For the long term, it looks like you have had plenty of drive and ambition toward achieving your objectives but feeling restless, impatient, and possibly like you aren’t getting much support. This has been a good period of time to be involved in a physical exercise program as an outlet for your frustrations and hopefully you’ve made exercise a regular part of your life. Work on being as healthy as you can and then take some time to appreciate the results of your work.

You should be feeling a little relief after next month. There still won’t be a particular emphasis on romance, but don’t rule it out. You’ll start to feel stronger and like your life is improving in general. This period will last until October of 2024 when you’ll be feeling more energetic and more likely to seriously connect with potential partners.

From October 2024 until April 2026, you will be able to focus on partnerships. You will need to evaluate your relationships then and ensure that your friends, family and romantic partner are supportive and encourage you to be your best self. This will be a time when you get serious about a partnership. You could even reconnect with someone from your past. This will be when you decide whether to commit to a long-term partnership or deliberately stay single. Your chart shows that you will have periods of romance throughout your 50′s, 60′s and beyond. This will serve you well whether you are in a partnership or single.

Best,

Cheryl